10 Things I wish I knew about Long Distance relationships before I got into one

 I have been in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend Jarrett for a year and a half now, and we have hit the ups and the downs of our relationship. There were so many things about being in a long-distance relationship that I had no idea I would ever have to come across, and I would love to share those with you so you are aware of them to help you in your long-distance relationship!

1. The goodbyes never get any easier

Right. You'd think that after so many goodbyes you would get better at them or at least they would get easier. WRONG. Eventually, it gets so frustrating that you have to keep saying goodbye to the one person who gets you, the one person who makes you happy, the one person who just happens to live states or maybe countries away. The key is to just stay strong, not only for your person but for you. 

2. You will miss Major Holidays together

I never realized how hard this one would hit me. Yes, you will eventually get to celebrate them, but it's not the same excitement as the day of. Christmas, Thanksgiving, even Birthdays, all over the phone. If you're lucky you will get to plan your trips over these major holidays, and they're SO worth it! Any time spent with your honey is worth it, but it is so special finally getting to spend holidays together. 

3. Sometimes communication is hard

I know this one sounds silly since you talk ALL the time but, sometimes it is hard to communicate what is happening in your life. When you see someone every day you can pick up on their facial expressions or body language to see how they are feeling. When you are in a long-distance relationship you don't get to see that person every day or sometimes even on video call, so it can be hard to pick up those small indicators. So, if something is bothering you or your significant other make sure you are letting each other know what is bothering you or at least check in with them. 

4. Countdowns..

3 Months.. 1 Month.. 2 Weeks.. 5 Days... You are Constantly counting down to when you see each other again, or if you are with each other you count down until you have to leave again. When I tell you it is a daily thing, it is a daily thing. No matter what you are doing, something will remind you and you will countdown. Wake up, countdown. Eat lunch, countdown. Drive home, countdown. Eventually, your countdown will get to the point where you get to count down the days until you will be reunited for good! 

5. You become independent people

This one sounds weird, but it's true. You become your own person when you are away from each other, then when you are together you are a completely different you! The next time you are with your honey, notice how different you two act when you are together than when you are apart! It's not a bad thing, it's a great thing! It is good to establish yourself before getting into anything serious!

6. Social Media becomes a common ground

You will begin to love social media. You begin to love seeing their family posing about them and how they're doing. You love seeing what they post on Instagram or Facebook about their everyday lives, and you'll catch yourself checking it more than you'd like to admit. Snapchat is also a really good form of communication so you get the opportunity to see their cute face every day. Facebook messenger or facetime will also become your best friend. I promise you, even if you hate social media, you'll love getting and seeing those updates about the one you love the most. 

7. Airports...

You will spend so much time in airports, it's not even funny. You'll begin to know the airport and the drive to the airport better than the back of your hand. You will also constantly be checking airline websites waiting for the cheapest tickets to come up. PRO TIP: Wednesdays are the cheapest flight days ;). So, make sure you pack gum, wear something comfy, and get ready for that fight!

8. You'll gain so much Patience

Over the many months of being apart, you will become so patient. Being in a long-distance relationship can become so frustrating at times, and even though it can be really hard it is important to take a breath and reflect on your situation. Because in my opinion, I would much rather be miles away from him, than not his at all! One thing that helps me when I am struggling, is little affirmations for each other about what you love about them and then a countdown until your next time together. It will all be worth it in the end! 

9. It can get expensive - Jarrett

When preparing this post, I wanted to ask Jarrett his thoughts and what he wished he would have known before getting into this relationship with me. Without hesitation, he says "HOW FREAKING EXPENSIVE IT IS!"He is very right. When it comes down to plane tickets, trips, gifts, high-speed internet, and everything in between, it can get pretty expensive. So our advice to you, be constantly saving up for your trips and use your money wisely!!

10. It is honestly, just hard

I know this one probably wasn't what you wanted to hear, but it is the honest truth. Nothing about long distances is easy. You say your goodnights over the phone, there's no kisses or hugs, you see special moments over a screen, and honestly, it can feel easy to just give up. But, I am telling you right now, that if you love that person, you will do no matter what it takes to make your relationship work. You will make it through all the hard months, and maybe even years, and when you are finally together for good with no more distance all of the hard times will be so worth it. 

This has been my experience with my long-distance relationship, and obviously, every relationship is different but hopefully, these tips will help you get through your daily struggles. Maybe you are contemplating getting into that long-distance relationship? In my opinion, even though it is hard, it is the best relationship I have ever been in. So go for it! 

I would love to hear about your experiences in your relationship! I will also be posting a video about this on my YouTube channel! Thank you for stopping by today, and I hope that you enjoyed this article!

Sincerely, Hunter Irene

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